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The Union Army had "Embalming Surgeons" in the battlefield that would prepare the remains, place them in a coffin and send back to the family by train or horse and buggy. With the funeral of President Abraham Lincoln which took his remains through this country from Washington D.C. to his home in Springfield, Illinois over 19 days with stops along the way for viewing by the public, the public was made aware of this new process. Dr. Erich Lindemann was an early pioneer in grief therapy. His work with survivors of the Coconut Grove Nightclub fire in Boston; lead him to believe that avoidance of the body is done at the psychological peril of the bereaved. Avoiding the body image appears at first to be convenient in the immediate phase of acute grief but this convenience is really an "illusion." (Symptom logy and Management of Acute Grief, Lindemann, E. American Journal of Psychiatry, 1944:101).Rabbi Earl A. Grollman in his book Concerning Death: A Practical Guide for the Living (Beacon Press, Boston, MA, 1974) discusses viewing the body. "This is perhaps of greater importance today than ever before…seeing is believing…Proper preparation and, when necessary, restoration helps to modify and remove the marks of violence or the ravages of disease. Preparation, restoration, and the use of cosmetics are not meant to make the dead look alive. They provide an acceptable image for recall the deceased. Viewing is therapeutic for people, regardless of age." The website www.funeralswithlove.com also states, "Seeing the body at rest is enormously helpful to some." >>> Articles • Additional Articles • Website Resources • Books <<< • Project Death in America: 2001-2003. Soros Foundation - www.soros.org Listed below are some additional resources: AARP Grief and Loss - www.aarp.org/families/grief_loss Death and Identity. By Robert Fulton, New York, New York, Wiley Publishing, 1965. For the Living. By Edgar N. Jackson, New York, New York, Channel Press, 1965. The Funeral: Vestige or Value. By Paul Irion, Philadelphia, PA, Fortress Press, 1968. Grief and Grief Management: Some Reflections. By Erich Lindemann. Journal of Pastoral Care, volume 30, 1976. The Attending at the Funeral. By Patrick Irvine. New England Journal of Medicine. Volume 312, 1985. Access to the dead: the role of relatives in the aftermath of disaster. P. Dix. Originally printed in The Lancet, 1998;352:1061-1062. Bodies in Motion and at Rest. By Thomas Lynch. New York, New York, Norton, 2000. Living with Loss, Healing with Hope. Rabbi Earl Groffman. Beacon Press, 2000. The Value of Viewing. By Doug Manning. The Dodge Magazine, March, 2001. Journaling through Grief. By Tamara Tabel. Personal Journaling, December 2001:51-53. Healing Grief. By Victor M. Parachin, Chalice Press, 2001. The Annual Cost of Despair. By J. Zaslow. Originally printed in the Wall Street Journal, November 20, 2002. Bereavement Care: Seeing the Body. By F. Haas, Nursing Standards, volume 17, 2003. The Long Good-bye. By Vicki M. Payne. NY Times March 10, 2003. Bringing Back the Dead, Photographer Captures a Harlem Undertaker's Art. By Alan Feuer. NY Times, January 22, 2004. Grievers Ask: Answers to Questions about Death and Loss. By Harold Ivan Smith, Augsburg Fortress Press, 2004. When a Friend Dies: A Book for Teens About Grieving & Healing. Marily E. Gootman, Free Spirit Publishing, 2005. Why Disposing of the Dead Matters to the Living. By Somini Sengupta. NY Times February 24, 2005. Children at the Deathbed. By K. Baltzell. Originally published in the YB News (Beyond Indigo 2005), July 2005. Foundation to Target Youth Suicide through Columbia University TeenScreen Program. Originally printed in YB News, August 2005. Ignoring a Death. Kelly Baltzell, MA. Originally printed in YB News, August, 2005. Misconceptions about Grief. Victor M. Parachin. Originally printed in The Director, August, 2005. Will We Ever Arrive at the Good Death? By R.M. Henig. Originally published in the New York Times, August 7, 2005. After Life, For a woman left behind after her husband's death, life can become a labyrinth of questions. J. Didion. Originally printed in the NY Times Magaines, September 25, 2005. A Learnable Practice, cultivating hope during bereavement. V. Parachin. Originally printed in The Director, October 2005. An Argument Against Direct Cremation. J. Van Rensselar. Originally printed in The Director, October 2005. One Year to Live. K. Baltzell. Originally printed in YB News, October, 2005. Good Night. Ten ways for grievers to get a better night's sleep. Victor M. Parachin. The Director, December, 2005. In the Rear Window, Tributes to the Dead. A. Engel. Originally printed in the NY Times, December 11, 2005. Do's & Don'ts. Kelly Baltzell, YB News, January, 2006. Nothing Takes the Place of Touch. Doug Manning, The Dodge Magazine, January, 2006. Two Decembers: Loss and Redemption. Anne Marie Feld. NY Times, January 29, 2006. Call me if you need anything and other things not to say. Harold Ivan Smith. Death's Door, Modern Dying and the Ways We Grieve. Sandra M. Gilbert. North & Company. Surving the death of a sibling –living through grief when a adult brother or sister dies. TJ Wray. The empty chair: handling grief on holidays and special occasions. Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge and Robert D. DeVries. The orphaned adult: understanding and coping with grief and change after the death of our parents. Alexander Levy. The Year of Magical Thinking. Joan Didion, Alfred A. Knopf Press, NY. When your family pet has died: helping the children. K. Baltzell. YB News, March, 2006. Perception is reality. D. Manning. The Dodge Magazine, March, 2006. I wasn't ready to say good-bye: surviving, coping and healing after the sudden death of a loved one. Brook Noel. Modern Dying and the Ways We Grieve. Sandra M. Gilbert. For the Families of the Dying, Coaching as the Hours Wane. J. Gross Originally printed in the New York Times, May 20, 2006. Dying was the best thing that ever happened to me: Stories of Healing and Wisdom Along Life's Journey. Dr. William E. Hablitzel. Talking to the Elderly About Dying. Kelly Baltzell, originally printed in YB News, July, 2006. Unresolved and Conflicted Grief is a Variable in forms of Anti-social Behavior. Originally printed in YB News, July, 2006. Children and Loss. Victor M. Parachin. Originally printed in The Director, July, 2006. After Death Mapping the Journey. Sukie Miller and Suzanne Lipsett. All of Us: American Talk about the Meaning of Death. Patricia Anderson. On Grief and Grieving. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler. Helping Questions. K. Baltzell. Originally printed in YB News, September, 2006. Grief and Mourning: Expressions to help us heal. J. Johnson, Originally printed in The Dodge Magazine, September, 2006. The Final Reminder: How I emptied my parents house. Lydia Flem Annie Freeman's Fabulous Traveling Funeral. Kris Radish Assessing grief and bereavement: observations from the field. M. Michalski. Originally printed in Omega, 2006;54:91-106 Giving and Grieving. Victor Parachin. Originally printed in the Director Magazine, October, 2006. What is Normal? Kelly Baltzell. Originally printed in the YB News, October, 2006. The Gift of Aftercare. Sherry Williams. Originally printed in the YB News, October, 2006. The Empty Space. Kelly Baltzell. Originally printed in the YB News, November, 2006. Used pacemaker could keep someone else ticking. Jim Ritter. Originally printed in the Chicago Sun-Times, November 27, 2006. Life is Not a Spectator Sport. Todd Little. Originally printed in the International Cemetery & Funeral Management, December, 2006. Left Behind. Victor M. Parachin. Originally printed in The Director, January 2007. Why People Need Rituals. Todd Van Beck. Originally printed in ICCFA Magazine, January 2007. Ghost in the Dream. Dinah Lenney. Originally printed in The NY Times Magazine, February 18, 2007. How Shall We Deal with Grief in these Tumultuous Times? Maria Dancing Heart. Originally printed in YB News, March 2007 What Grieving People Have to Say. Kelly Baltzell. Originally printed in YB News, March 2007. Blue Mood: Dealing with depression in grief. Todd Van Beck. Originally printed in the American Funeral Director, May 2007 The Grieving Child: is your funeral home child-friendly? Alicia Sims Franklin. Originally printed in the American Funeral Director, May 2007 Letting Go of Our Loved Ones. Judith Graham. Originally printed in the Chicago Sun-Times, May 29, 2007 When a Child Dies. Joy Johnson for the Dodge Magazine, Summer, 2007 There's No Quick Prescription for Grief. C. Keith Geense. Originally printed in the ICCFA Magazine, July 2007 I can still hold his hand. Denise Crosby. Originally printed in Chicago Sun-Times, July 26, 2007 Black Death and Momento Mori. Adrienne Kalmes. Originally printed in YB News, August, 2007 Children and Pet Loss. Kelly Baltzell. Originally printed in YB News, August, 2007 When a Partner Dies. Joy Johnson. Originally printed in the Dodge Magazine, November-December, 2007 Christmas Flourishes, in a Trim Green Stillness (at Holy Cross Cemetery and Mortuary). Originally printed in the NY Times, December 23, 2007 Assessing adults difficulty in coping with funerals. B. Hayslip, et al. Orignally printed in Omega, 2007; 55:93-115 Still trying to bring their fallen heroes home. N. Bernstein. Originally printed in the NY Times, February 3, 2008 The Power of Caring. Doug Manning, Originally printed in the Dodge Magazine, Summer, 2008 Condolences, Felt but Not Expressed. Kent Sepkowitz. Originally printed in the NY Times, August 12, 2008 Easier to rest in peace if affairs in order. Paige Wiser. Originally printed in the Chicago Sun-Times, August 17, 2008 Artisans carve niche for grave markers. H. Russ. Originally printed in Chicago Tribune, December 1, 2008 Dealing with anticipatory grief. T. Van Beck. Originally printed in the ICCFA Magazine, January, 2009 For families of the War Dead, a Mournful Ritual of Homecoming. K. Q. Seelye. Originally printed in the New York Times, May 6, 2009 Grief and the Loss of the Loving Relationship. T. Van Beck. Originally printed in the Dodge Magazine, Spring, 2009 Twenty-Four Pounds. D. Bailey. Originally printed in the Dodge Magazine, Spring, 2009 After a Death, the Pain That Doesn't Go Away. F. Schumer. Originally printed in the New York Times, September 29, 2009 Lives: Ashes - A journey to an unlikely burial ground. J. Matloff. Originally printed in the New York Times, October 6, 2009 Chronicle of a Death We Can't Accept. T G Long. Originally printed in the New York Times, November 1, 2009 Cemetery Plunder Shows That in Venezuela, Even Death May Not Bring Peace. Originally printed in the New York Times, December 11, 2009 The Last Decision: a new approach to organ donation doesn't require waiting until the donor's brain death. D Sanghavi. Originally printed in the New York Times Magazine, December 20, 2009 When I Was Left To Speak for Both of Us. P G Licata. Originally printed in the New York Times, January 17, 2010 Death, mourning and burial: a cross cultural reader. Antonius Robben Death's Door: Modern Dying and the Ways We Grieve. Sandra Gilbert Farewell, my friend. Beatrice T. Bailey Good Grief. Granger E. Westberg Good mourning: getting through your grief. Allen Hugh, Jr. Grief Girl. Erin Vincent Delacorte Grieving the Death of a Mother. Harold Ivan Smith Handbook for Mortals. Joanne Lynn, Joan Harrold Healing the Hurt Spirit: Daily Affirmations for People Who Have Lost a Loved One to Suicide. Catherine Greenleaf. Heartwounds: The impact of unresolved trauma and grief in relationships. Tian Dayton Honey The Rock Hound: A Puppy Dies A Family Mourns. Tom Lord. Life on the Death Beat. A. Baranick, J Sheeler, S. Miller. Marion Street Press. Love Cemetery: Unburying the secret history of slaves. C. Galland. Harper-Collins Publishers. Mama's Going to Heaven Soon. Kathe Martin Copeland Passages: The Mystery of Death - Finding Meaning in Life. Tomas and Garth Fuller The Dragonfly Door. Barbara L. Gibson The Other Side of Sadness: what the science of bereavement tells us about life after loss. George A. Bonanno The Purple Balloon. Chris Raschka Thin the Veil. Penelope Ann Thomas. Widow Words: 100 Simple Pieces of Advice from Another Widow. Marcia A. Curran |
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